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PROS AND CONS OF ARRANGED MARRIAGE FREE
Opera News is a free to use platform and the views and opinions expressed herein are solely those of the author and do not represent, reflect or express the views of Opera News. So which is better? Depends on what you want and what you’re looking for.Ĭontent created and supplied by: Ericky123 (via Opera Arranged marriages are less likely to reach either those lofty heights or those terrible depths. Love marriages have, in my opinion, much greater potential payoffs, but they also can go very wrong. Of course, the risk of that approach is that sometimes the lessons aren’t learned, and sometimes they’re more painful than is easily recovered from.
If my parents had made the choice, and I had listened, I would have experienced none of that growth, and would be a worse person. They were right, but by making the choice for myself, I learned far more and became a better person in the process. They believe we were wrong for each other. I’m glad I did not, but I’m equally glad my parents didn’t force me to stop dating her. When I was younger, I thought I would end up marrying a different woman. I’m with a woman I believe is perfect for me, and who I love with all my heart. That’s not something I could have done with parents who made those decisions for me. I am grateful my parents were willing and able to teach and advise me, but allow me to make my own choices. I make them, I live with the consequences. I respect my parents, I take their views into account, but at the end of the day, my choices are my own. It was done to them, it was done to their mothers, so they’ll do it to their daughters, because that is what they grew up believing is normal and right.)įor me personally? I believe that the ability to make your own choices is important. (An unrelated, very extreme example that is used only to illustrate how a practice can become normalized and is not a judgement for or against love or arranged marriages: female circumcision/mutilation is regarded as unethical and dangerous by most modern societies, including the United Nations, but in countries where it is practices, it is often the women who carry the practice forward. If you try to form an arranged marriage in a culture where love marriage are the norm, yo uwill be looked down upon. This means that for people in cultures where arranged marriages is the norm, attempting to form a love marriage will see you looked down upon. Whether a practice is right or wrong, if your parents grew up with a practice, if their parents grew up with it, they will often believe that it is right and normal, so attempt to perpetuate it. Beyond that, an arranged marriage is a decision made not just by those who are married, but by their families there is, as a result, often a great deal of family pressure to stay married.Ĭultures that do not permit divorce at all will have a divorce rate close to 0%, but that doesn’t mean their marriages are automatically superior. Cultures that have arranged marriages often have strong social stigmas against divorce, and even when that is overcome there remain strong legal issues. Some will claim that arranged marriages end in divorce less often, and cite that as proof that they’re superior this is mistaken. Love marriages focus on that emotional connection first, with the other aspects being important but not the sole focus.īased on that, both sides can claim superiority, because each is better at achieving its own goals.
Love and happiness are desired, but of lower importance. Arranged marriages focus on long-term compatibility the hope is not that the children will fall in love, but that they’ll have children and be financially stable. Though they use the same word, arranged and love marriages have very different intents. All that you need to know about arranged marriage, the good the bad and the ugly.
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